Okay, so put your hand up if your New Year’s resolution was to be healthier, thinner, leaner or something along those lines…… So how are you going with that? Were you supposed to get up and do a workout before work this morning, but you pushed snooze too many times? Were you supposed to take your lunch instead of eating some crap from the coffee shop down the road from the office? How many of us set New Year’s resolutions and by February are still saying, “Oh, I’ll start tomorrow”. Were you supposed to stop drinking.
To resolve something is to find a solution or to decide firmly on a course of action. That being said, if I was going to set a New Year’s resolution, it would mean working out what the problem was in the first place and then putting action steps in place to decide the course and achieve an outcome.
So here comes my New Year’s resolution: “To have more time for myself”. So what are the problems that prevent me from having time for myself?
Always being available to staff and clients (the phone has an off switch for a reason)
Not delegating tasks enough. Its all good and well to think things will get done properly if you do them yourself, but if you don’t give others the space to take on challenges and learn, then you will forever be surrounded by people who are dependent on you and the cycle will continue. Not only that, you prevent others from growing and they will resent you for treating them like children.
Working late into the evening. There comes a point when you just get too tired and so you are not productive anyway. Procrastination is often seen as the default of a lazy or disinterested person. In the case of someone who is always busy and takes on too much, it is usually a sign of exhaustion and the brain saying “time for a break so you actually have some brain power to do what you’re supposed to be doing” There is so much truth in “There is nothing that cannot wait until tomorrow”.
So, how am I going with my New Year’s resolution?
I have Friday’s off. I mean really, I have them off. I didn’t even answer the phone last Friday.
I have Sunday’s off. Didn’t even think about work.
I have scheduled time for staff meetings, answering emails, making phone calls and giving tasks to other people, etc. Your day can so easily get filled up with little tasks here and there that you never get to the important stuff.
I have an amazing full time assistant. I am not an expert at admin and it takes me hours to do what she does in minutes.
Business plan for 2013 is on a spreadsheet and written out and I have shown it to someone to keep me accountable.
So, you ask? How do you just do this all of a sudden? Well,you can’t just wake up one morning and do it.Well, as you know, I’m an NLP and Matrix Therapies Coach and Trainer and I really believe in the power of change with these techniques. So I had some sessions with my coaches, Pip McKay and Helen Ryan. (I believe that the best coaches have coaches)
I can use Archetypal Coaching to work on my passion and purpose and be absolutely clear what my overall dream is.
I sat down and had a really good look at what I want to achieve and set a S.M.A.R.T goal. To learn how to set S.M.A.R.T goals see my article for Soul Sessions.
I used Matrix Therapies to clear negative beliefs about money, having to do everything, putting others before me and trust.
I made sure my career and personal values are aligned with and work towards my overall dream by using NLP techniques.
So how are you going with your goals for 2013? Need some help? Get in touch with us!